KimBowers Counselling in Newmarket



About me

 

Background:

I bring 16 years professional experience, and a wealth of personal experience of the challenges of being human into the therapeutic relationship, with this depth of understanding l am empathic, non judgemental, compassionate and insightful into how l hear and respond to you and your story.

I came to train as a therapist in 1995 after my own painful yet positive experience in personal therapy. l first went into therapy because of many personal challenges from my own childhood that had left me with many wounds and relationship difficulties. It started me on the journey to understanding myself better and therefore, the ripple affect from this was -understanding myself in the relationships l was choosing unconsciously and change started to happen for the positive. This profound effect on the way I thought and felt about my life and my life  the relationships around me changed because of this.

l continue to look within to seek and understand myself believing as a therapist it's not just a vocation but a  responsibility to do so , as how can l truly listen to the depths of another's story if  l am unable look and listen to my own. Carl Jung the great Psychologist talked in his wisdom of all humans having a 'shadow' , the part/s of ourselves as humans that is hidden, unconscious. l continue on my journey always to discover who l am. I do this through meditation, contemplation and many workshops and constantly learning from everyone l meet.

I qualified in 1998 and worked as a Counsellor as part of the Student Welfare team at West Suffolk College for 3 years. I have been working privately since.

In my background l have worked with families and parents and have a depth of understanding both personal and professional of the emotional challenges of parenting, and of being new parent and the emotions, insecurities  and struggles which can arise from this. The first year of having a child can be the most challenging for a new parent, this can be because of your past, lack of support both physically and emotionally or because of post natal depression. Together we would work to gain understanding and develop coping stratergies to build upon and enhance the relationship with your baby.

I worked for 7 years for  a charity advocating and supporting families from the Gypsy and Traveller community where mental health and other obstacles had an impact on their lives.

I continued to work for charities and was blessed to have engaged and helped  a wide range of people from different ethnic, social, economic and cultural backgrounds and has given me a greater understanding of human condition and cultural and emotional differences and stresses and strains that impact on individuals and therefore on their relationships and their families.

I have also worked with families and parents  supporting and building self esteem and building their confidence in their parenting. Through a breath of both professional and personal experience, I have developed a deep understanding of the trials of life and am able to engage with people on a human level, whatever their circumstances and wherever they come from.

I have been offering counselling and psychotherapy in private practice since 2007.

Qualifications, development and Trainings:

  • Diploma in Person-Centred/Psychodynamic Counselling
  • Post Diploma in Counselling
  • Accredited Member of BACP (British Association Counsellors & Psychotherapists)
  • BACP Endorsed Certificate in Couples Counselling
  • Transpersonal Workshops: working creatively with the many aspects within ourselves.
  • lnner Child Work : There can be the you who is in the world and a you that does not feel so adult. This can be through arrest of development as a child, through trauma, memories of 'back there' you are unable to move away from or have got stuck.
  • Body and Soma: Working with trauma or strong emotions that are held in the body.
  • Working creatively using a wide range of visualisations and various other techniques.
  • Using Mindfulness to develop and enhance body awareness of how stress and emotions sit within the body and using these tools to help reduce stress, anxiety and manage emotions.
  • Working with Attachment: The attachment we form as babies with our care givers is the most significant one, it teaches us about relationships. Depending on what the attachment will determine how you attach to further relationships when becoming adult; these may be difficult if the attachment has been difficult, it can be hard to trust others.We work gently within our attachment to develop something different, and therefore work together to begin to gain trust and understanding of how a different relationship can begin. Once you start to get an experience of something different relationships outside the therapeutic space start to change.

Professional status:As an Accredited Member of the BACP ( British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy) I am bound by their Code of Ethics.